is spelling THAT important?!

facebook conversation between me and my cousin D yesterday

(previous conversation was me telling her to not send an abusive message to the guy she was seeing)
D: well can i send him a nice message then?
B: no. no. no. you have gone on ONE date. no
D: but we speak every day!
B: you cannot akt like a neurotic wife
D: fine but i'm just letting you know that i'm in a foul mood
B: fine.
D: akt?! lol
B: how did i put k in? how the hell did i do that?
D:that's ok... C. (her best friend) picked up a guy last night who rites thet and rebbet
B: ?
D: that and rabbit
B: bahaha omg poor girl
D: that's not even phonetic... worse than V. (D.'s ex, who used to talk and write like a muzza)
B: !
D: lol she cancelled her date
B: based on spelling. did she tell him?
D: no.

now that might not seem that normal to you, for girls to make a massive deal about spelling BUT WE DO! if a guy rites lyk dis n speeks lyk a muzztek forget it.

if they speak like morons with wog accents that they can turn on and off (eg. work versus hanging out 'with the boys') forget it.

before i come across as a total bitch i'd like to point out that my ex, A., spoke english as his second language and that is NOT what i'm talking about at all here. he misspelt things all the time, and got his words mixed up when he spoke - i didn't care, i'm an ESL teacher!

and after all there are some girls out there that really go for wogs like that. ones that call their girlfriends their 'missus', the kinds of guys who seem to wear hats all the time, strangely. (i'm fully aware that i'm stereotyping)

a little while ago i met someone online who spoke well and could spell. i was HOOKED. that was all it took. that is ridiculous. is it because when you're chatting over the internet or over sms that you have so little to latch onto that if spelling is perfect you'll see that as a major plus? people's spelling doesn't mean they're a good or bad person. it might relate to how they speak, which would then affect whether or not i'm attracted to them i guess.

and finally i accidentally type things like 'akt'. what if i wrote that to a new guy and he pfffffted me and didn't respond? would i like that? NO. so from now on i will be nicer to guys who were obviously picking their noses and flicking it at other kids in primary school while the rest of the class was being taught how to spell.